Part of the Process
I was chatting with Moana Bianchin Hodge this afternoon, she's a More To Life professional coach in New Zealand. (Have I said how much I love skype?) We were discussing the subject of whether or not to tell somebody what we are noticing. What is the line between intruding into someone's life without permission and being willing to be used by Life/God/Universal Light as a "wake up" – as part of being accountable, being fully present and engaged in This Now Moment.
Here are our conclusions:
1. All of us have blindsides – pockets of growth that seem to know when to break out of the ground –
like a flower bursting from a crack in the sidewalk. The seed was there, then timing dictates when it blooms.
2. Before all of our breakthroughs so far, there were lifeshocks (things that happened) that initiated and then spurred our personal evolution.
3. If someone requires 10 lifeshocks to bloom into another pocket of awareness, are we willing to be numbers 3 and 7 of those 10 lifeshocks? Or will we abdicate for fear of alienating that person in some way, impeding their journey into awareness, requiring Life to use other events/people to evolve someone?
4. The trick is to share what we notice without judgment, simply giving feedback about what we've noticed. It's dang difficult to refute data. That means having no demands that they change. Simple, not so easy to do; especially if they mean a lot to us. (The better we get at giving clean feedback, the more credible we become.)
Each person's every breakthrough affects the human web, to which we are all connected. What responsibility are we willing to take for our part in the evolution of each other in specific and the human race in general?
Hello Ann,
I found, surfing on Roy Whitten’s blog, an interesting Honor adressed to you. Your name reminded me something: I googled you and found out what my intuition was telling me: you were my coach in a MTL weekend in South Africa a few years ago! So glad to meet you againq!
I am really interested to read about your comment on “the right timing” and how to give back clean data to someone we love. Quite difficult indeed, but it is a training that can lead us to realise how affected we are sometimes, and how our own over reaction to other’s patterns can be a sign that we might need to process before trying any kind of data-giving. I would just add this as a fifth point in your article: “dare give some clean data back”. There is a part of wisdom necessary, as you highlight, but there is also a part of responsibility we are automatically given when we have this “gift” to see something. And it takes courage, I think, to give back data, especially when we don’t especially know or love the person we’reinteracting with.
Hope you are well!
Olivier