Spiritual Wellbeing
Vanessa (I have her permission to share this), a member of the Durban More To Life Weekend team, has natural presence and exudes an innate power, yet she was acting obsequiously, avoiding our eyes, being "busy" – except when she forgot and genuinely connected. So I asked her about that dichotomy. She traced it back to... Learn More
Fake Spirituality
Fake Spirituality Another aspect of Apartheid is the division between what I teach/preach and how I live. I distinctly remember my father preaching about the evils of smoking – While he was smoking. He didn’t see any incongruence between his behavior and his words. He truly believed it was OK for him, but not for... Learn More
Apartheid
I first came to SA in 1990, while Apartheid (an Afrikaans word for racial segregation – literally meaning “apart-hood”) was in full swing. I was here 2 weeks after The Election in 1994 which ended apartheid, then moved here for a couple of years, and have been coming here ever since, co-leading trainings. I love... Learn More
The Undead Issues
Once I've handled an issue, it should stay dead and buried! However, life doesn't seem to operate like that. Apparently some issues require re-handling to gain deeper understanding and/or a more consistent commitment to behavior that signifies that that issue really is dead and buried. This last weekend, in a one-day, rock 'em, knock 'em,... Learn More
A Grateful Mom
It's hard to believe. And yet, at 3:20am forty years ago today, a miracle happened. I had no clue about the extent of that miracle. In fact I had given up ever being granted the wish that had been close to my heart for several years. I didn't know how expanded my heart would get.... Learn More
Tug of War – Other Side
In my psychotherapy/coaching practice, I am often in the position of being able to be more generous than others, not so much about money, but about expertise. The tug of war on this side of the rope is whether my generosity supports vitality (mine and others) or undermines accountability (mine and others). When this issue... Learn More