Yes, the short-term gratification of resentment seems delicious; except that, beneath my "sniping, sabotaging, self-righteous gloating, not taking responsibility for my own quality of life" is a low-frequency shame that runs beneath the surface of my consciousness. It knows that my acting like a bully, martyr, victim, manipulative spoiled brat is a betrayal of the... Learn More

According to Wikipedia, resentment is the experience of a negative emotion felt as a result of a real or imagined wrong, synonymous with anger or spite. All that's needed to warrant my resentment is for my expectations not be be met. Sometimes *you* don't know what I expect, because I've not told you. And I've not told... Learn More

When my blind spot doesn't respect your outlook, I feel justified to treat you any way I want. I can write you off in a million different ways – from simply not listening to you to literally killing you, and everything in between. The current National Domestic Violence Statistics state that 4 women and 3... Learn More

Outlooks and blind spots. I have 'em. You have 'em. Companies have 'em. Nations have 'em. My outlook on life, my point of view, is shaped, colored, tainted, skewed by the filters of my gender, race, age, family order, etc., as well as all the exeriences I've ever had – religious/spiritual, traumatic/pleasureable. The problem is... Learn More

I love working with couples – especially couples in transition. It's only a matter of time before a couple is in transition, unless both parties are totally and fully committed not to grow – which is rather difficult these days. One of the funniest complaints I hear on a regular basis, "S/He isn't the same... Learn More

I shared a want I had with someone who mattered to me. It was a want that I was fairly certain wouldn't happen. And I wanted to stay true to myself, to have all my cards on the table, to be all-in The Flow. My friend put all his cards on the table. The cards... Learn More