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"/>Obscene Phone Call - Ann McMaster M.A., L.P.C.

LIFE AS IT IS

Obscene Phone Call

I've had three obscene phone calls in my life. I don't even remember the first one, but the second one freaked me out. It started easy enough, then slowly slid from distasteful to raunchy. When the reality dawned, I slammed the receiver down (this was before the days of cell phones) and hyperventilated. Then I got mad.Rotary-cell-phone

I was mad at him, and I was mad at myself for freaking out. So I took 3 conscious breaths and came back home to myself. I was curious. I decided to imagine myself in his shoes, what kind of a person would do something like that? So I decided that if he called back, or if I ever got another obscene phone call, I would talk to him like a human being – ask him what it's like to have a relationship with women based on fear, and is that really the kind of relationship he wanted.

Dang if he didn't call the same time the next night – obscene phone call number three. This time I was prepared. I talked to him as one human being to another. I did ask him those questions. It was an amazing conversation. He didn't have the kind of relationship he wanted with a woman and said he didn't know how. So we talked about that, and I gave him a referral that I thought might support him finding what he wanted.

And that was that. I never heard from him again.

Oh, I forgot. There Was a fourth call – many years later, different phone number. I was caught off guard, freaked out, slammed the phone down, hyperventilated … then laughed.

3 Responses

  1. Isabel

    I agree .. you are so very funny and predictably unpredictable …
    except that no matter what…
    the timeless stand remains …
    to connect with the best of human kind …
    a mystical quality …
    I had the priviledge to dance with for a long while…
    ah …
    the memories of the soul …
    oh yes …
    a weird phone call …
    in my dear friends home … in a country I barely knew… while she worked in the prison ( oh yes … the syncronicity)
    There I was …
    quite frightened…
    bleeding profusely…
    who do I call if I go under??? I pondered
    oh …
    911 …
    do they really exist???
    so I called 911 …
    can I help you???
    geeez … they are really there
    putting the phone down immediately …
    in fear of being caught…
    to get a call back …
    immediately …
    did you just call???
    geez…
    they are good …
    yes …
    how can we help you???
    well right now I just wanted to know that you really existed …
    wondering to this day what the woman thought of me …
    and yet …
    there I was …
    making a weird phone call …
    in this weaving of human despair …
    when we forget …
    hummm

  2. Isabel

    oh can’t resist…
    even if hard core for me to tell the story…
    again in my dear friends home …
    playing with her computer as mine at the time was far too slow and cumbersome…
    another country …
    with all different creative possibilities …
    my detective curious and exploring different sites here and there …
    to suddenly hit a porn site …
    wow look at this …
    never seen this before …
    tipping my toes …
    here and there …
    to suddenly get this huge message popping up in the screen…
    “DO YOUR PARENTS KNOW THAT YOU ARE WATCHING THIS SITE??? ”
    Oh dear …
    I recoiled like a child…
    literally …
    frozen on impact …
    I need to get out of here…
    escape.. escape .. escape …
    to find that the computer had frozen too (possibly through my terror)
    specially when I realised that my friend would come home any time…
    and I had no idea of what was going on…
    the fear became so intense I was sweating …
    managing to disconnect the computer somehow …
    with great relief …
    except that my friend then would get reminders of my visit …
    and had to do a clean out …
    but that is another story …
    funny moments…
    in this mysterious dance of human kind…
    calling us…
    to be awake … alive …and hear…