Letting Go – Part 5 – Keeping the Vision
What makes it hard for me to Let Go is the notion that I have to let go of Everything – which leaves me with nothing and nowhere to go. If I hang onto something I know is unhealthy, at least I have something! (Bad breath is better than no breath!)
One of the times this slammed home for me was when I was having a hard time letting go of a relationship – a relationship that was essentially over (except that I was still hoping it would turn around – a bad case of hopium, for sure!). It was over in every way except emotionally.
My mindtalk was: I'll never find another one as good as that one (a good relationship is one who doesn't have room for me????); all the good ones are taken (really?); I'm missing the "relationship gene" (<grin>); etc. Once I exposed all my dark thoughts to the light, I chalked that relationship up to Life Lessons and looked at what I really wanted in a relationship, minus the flaws in the last one.
Life Lesson: Don't give up on my visions for what I want in my life. Letting go of the specific person or event doesn't mean letting go of my vision – I just let go of attaining it the way I thought I would.
Good lesson for me right now……I’m having a tough time letting go myself!
Timely for me, Ann–thank you! I recently talked with my ex-husband about “holding on too long” to projects/relationships/things that aren’t working. He commented on holding on to our preconceived notions rather than to the actual thing/person/project. I realized that looking at and letting go of my preconceptions makes it much easier to remove myself from/let go of whatever isn’t working.
Camille
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