Pura Vida (Pure Life) is an attitude that Ticos (Costa Ricans) seem to have imbeded in their national psyche – at least the ones I met last week. The opportunity to visit Costa Rica was an example of Pura Vida operating in my life. Rick Jones, a long time friend of mine, mentioned that he... Learn More

Bold support is a major requirement for a real, close relationship. It requires trust enough to say what is seen/sensed; trust in the other's "for-ness" (vs against-ness), and it requires both to trust the relationship is solid enough to be tested … now and again. Bold support is for those determined to be an active... Learn More

I was chatting with Moana Bianchin Hodge this afternoon, she's a More To Life professional coach in New Zealand. (Have I said how much I love skype?) We were discussing the subject of whether or not to tell somebody what we are noticing. What is the line between intruding into someone's life without permission and... Learn More

What's the big deal about feelings, anyway? They're unpredictable, unsustainable, sometimes coming out of nowhere, making mountains out of molehills and vice versa. Basically they define vagary – sometimes seemingly normal; oftentimes inexplicable, inappropriate, inconvenient, or just plain messy. Sometimes they swamp us; sometimes we truncate their expression, even denying their existence. We exaggerate them,... Learn More

I used to think that my feelings were the first respondent to the things that happened in my life. Something happened that I could see, hear, smell, taste, touch; and seemingly instantaneously, I had feelings of one kind or another. Dr. Candace Pert (neuroscientist and pharmacologist) disproved my former assumption scientifically in her book, The... Learn More