The airlines have it figured out. If people put their own oxygen mask on first, they are then able to support others who haven’t. I think this theorem has applicability across the board. When I overextend myself, it’s only a matter of time before I resent “taking care of everybody else.” Once my needs are... Learn More

I started leading trainings in South Africa in 1991, during apartheid. What struck me so profoundly was the pervasiveness of apartheid. It wasn’t just black/white. It was men/women, British/Afrikaans, Zulu/Xhosa, rich/poor, power brokers/pawns, politicians/proletariat, management/labor, Christians/Jews/Muslims/ancestor worship. What strikes me now is the pervasiveness of apartheid in the world. I’ve been in several countries in the... Learn More

With the help of my new friend, Mary Anne Casey, it seems my shoulder injury began around the age of 3 with a traumatic physical injury. The physical injury was minimal compared to the loss of my innocence, the loss of my loving, trustworthy world. All the times since then that I was betrayed, lied to, thrown under... Learn More

I had cleared up my lies about this one person … many times. Obviously I was not getting to the root of my dis-ease, because I was still getting hooked back into the same old feelings with each new interaction. Bottom line, he should ‘fess up to what he did, and he should make amends.”... Learn More

That was the recurring question in last weekend’s Opening the Heart course. What are you feeling? Where are you feeling it in your body, and what are the physical sensations? There is a huge difference in physical vitality when I feel my feelings, not just know I have them. To be able to diagnose my... Learn More

When I first heard that phrase, my cynical ear heard it as a way of covering a cow patty with chocolate – sounded good/right, but stinky stuff lay under the cheesy/catchy phrase that contaminated the chocolate. But this morning (and many other times), I know how this Feels in my body. I can tell it’s... Learn More