The Road to Hell
Dr. Brad Brown used to say, “the fastest slide into hell is to compare!” Comparing anything of mine to anything of yours is certain to diminish one of us. Comparison works on every level imaginable – body/health, relationships, talent, job, money, status, political/religious views – the reactive mind uses even little things. The usual comparison works like... Learn More
My Version of the Parable of the Talents
There are several versions of the Parable of the Talents (a form of money back in ancient times). But the one that strikes home for me is the one where the master left on a trip, giving three of his employees some of his talents. One wasted the talents on self indulgent behavior. The second... Learn More
Slowing Down to the Speed of Love
This phrase came to me as a foreign thought. To understand it, I tried breaking it into smaller chunks, but it’s the flow of words that strikes the internal chord. So I matched an experience to the flow of words. Scene: early morning, my grandson, wrapped in his favorite Green Bay Packer blanket, comes straight to... Learn More
The Oxygen Mask Theorem
The airlines have it figured out. If people put their own oxygen mask on first, they are then able to support others who haven’t. I think this theorem has applicability across the board. When I overextend myself, it’s only a matter of time before I resent “taking care of everybody else.” Once my needs are... Learn More
Turning Point
I started leading trainings in South Africa in 1991, during apartheid. What struck me so profoundly was the pervasiveness of apartheid. It wasn’t just black/white. It was men/women, British/Afrikaans, Zulu/Xhosa, rich/poor, power brokers/pawns, politicians/proletariat, management/labor, Christians/Jews/Muslims/ancestor worship. What strikes me now is the pervasiveness of apartheid in the world. I’ve been in several countries in the... Learn More
Loss of Innocence
With the help of my new friend, Mary Anne Casey, it seems my shoulder injury began around the age of 3 with a traumatic physical injury. The physical injury was minimal compared to the loss of my innocence, the loss of my loving, trustworthy world. All the times since then that I was betrayed, lied to, thrown under... Learn More