Indeed. My parents owe me – after all, they had me, now they owe me happiness and a college degree. My children owe me – after all I’ve done for THEM, they owe me respect, good grades, and to do what I tell them. My friends owe me – after all I’ve been through with... Learn More

Brene Brown has a YouTube video exploring Boundaries and Compassion, which I highly recommend seeing – maybe several times. I’ve experienced what I’m like when my boundaries are clear. And I’ve experienced my life when I’ve replaced boundaries with walls. The difference is huge. According to Ms. Brown, boundaries are defined as – what’s OK,... Learn More

Why is it so easy to come up with all the things that are “wrong” with me, that I need to fix/heal/get over? And at the same time, claiming the qualities that I know are true and real is so much harder, embarrassing, un-owned. There’s an upside to “working on myself” – it can look... Learn More

Just before walking in the bush with year-old lions, the Ranger warned, “Do not go off on your own. Lions regard solitary animals as easy prey.” I saw it in action. I was beginning to relax on this walk, when I noticed one of the lions went stock still, every cell on high alert, demeanor... Learn More

Feeling “Unsafe” Lately three people have told me they feel “unsafe” around certain people or in specific circumstances. Examining that feeling in myself, a memory bubbled up of feeling “unsafe” with some of my pre-divorce friends, who, post-divorce, never asked if I was OK. There was no communication, hence disconnection … ample fodder for my... Learn More

My life was just the way I wanted it. Which seems to be an invitation for life to mess with me. Out of the blue – Lifeshock. Reality shook me out of my happy place. Being of sound mind and body, I tend to resist unasked-for change (unless I like it). Two years ago, I... Learn More