Letting Go – Part 1

The other morning I had a chat with Sharlene Bozeman, and, half in jest, she said, "I want to be fixed!" I know that phrase personally and all too well. I usually say it with resignation and/or despair. It's also usually said when I have made a mountain out of a molehill (Again) or behaved in a way that is ungraceful (Again)!

The good news is that I am focusing on the right person. The other good news is that there is nothing for me to "fix." I've never Really been "broken" or "irreparably damaged" or any of the other insults and jibes that my mind hurls at me to explain why something didn't go the way I wanted or thought it should. When I investigate my irrational, inappropriate behavior, I usually find a repeating pattern, based on some incident from my childhood. In fact, usually, I 'feel' little, small, not grown-up at all, or like I've been taken over by the body-snatchers, doing something I can't seem to stop myself from doing.

The way forward that has worked the best when I have over-reacted is to let go of any redaction that is
not who I am when I'm at my best. My baseline for "my best" are some pictures I have when I was a child – pristinely myself – naturally loving, full-on, and curious about everything. 

Bottom line, I don't need "fixing." I never did, and neither did you. What's on offer is the opportunity to Let Go of any and all behavior that is not congruent with my natural self.

PS I like this pic of letting go of "stuff," while knowing there will always be more 'stuff' to either latch onto/let go of, or simply let it pass me by.

PPS "Yes, but How?," you might ask. Read the next post, I suggest!