"Should" (and all its cousins, "ought, must, need, have to") is a way to self-incarcerate.  The "should edict" takes away my trust in my heart's integrity and my freedom to choose my way forward in each moment. And instead, it limits my choice to one – how I should be or what I should do.... Learn More

Justin Cloete and his wife Michelle recently became the proud parents of Ruby Isabella, a tiny little heart-stealer. In the short time since Ruby's debut, Justin has already run into a long list of "Should's" – normal for new parents – OK, normal for Everybody at any time. He knew that "should" was a demand... Learn More

Antony Sharman wrote the following as a comment on my previous blog posting: Children make us live our life over – and over again. It is a remarkable parent who is recharged by their child and who can see the difference between their own angst and the life-force of their offspring. Antony languaged something for... Learn More

35 years ago today, my life changed dramatically. I thought I knew what I was getting into; after all, I was the eldest of eight children. It's not like I didn't know the drill. Had I really known, I would have been even more grateful than I was at the time. Yes, as of today,... Learn More

It was just too tempting – lots and lots of snow and a couple of Polaris snowmobiles – one of which, at the last minute, decided to be mutinous and not start – so 3 of us piled on one. And yes – we just had to do it!  4-year-old Isaiah in front, Bill Makens... Learn More

Last week I was fortunate enough to spend some time with the leadership of Oak Tree Farms. It is a privately owned, working farm covering 8,000 acres near Clark, South Dakota, which also includes a very posh hunting lodge – for those who are pheasant hunters (and other critters, but their specialty is pheasant). While... Learn More