There are two kinds of rebels – the obvious kind who flout the rules, do whatever they want, whenever they want … an adult version of “the spoiled brat.” The second kind agrees with you, but figuratively crosses their fingers behind their backs .. saying what they think you want to hear, later behaving however they want.
As the eldest of 8 children, having heard, “you set the example for the rest of the kids,” I believed I had no choice but to behave the way I was supposed to. Cramped inside a box of “approved behavior.”
Inwardly I rebelled, hiding my naughty behavior: saying all the forbidden “bad” words, smoking, drinking, experimenting sexually – but only when I wouldn’t get caught. It was my way of breaking out of the box of Their “approved” behavior, sticking myself in the box of Their “unapproved” behavior, all to prove that I was free of their rules, not realizing I was still in a box.
Like that was a win.
As I matured, I started freeing myself of both boxes, until I thought I was finally self-actualized, loyal to my destiny as a human being. I was going through the Clarity Process from the More to Life program, curious about why I kept flouting my own exercise discipline. I finally unearthed my atavistic rebel stand – “Ain’t NOBODY gonna tell me what to do, even if it’s ME!!”
Wow! My ego is very tricky.