Ari: Zusha, what’s Life Lesson Number 1?
Zusha (through angry tears): YOU’RE responsible for my happiness.
Ari gives him “The Look.”
Zusha: trying to hold back a grin: “OK, I’M responsible for my own happiness.
Just, WOW! This really happened. When Ari was telling me about this, I was in “shock ‘n awe” – a 4-year-old cops to a reality that many grown-ups are reluctant to acknowledge, much less live.
So I’m thinking. What if all of us, as in ALL of us, really grokked Life Lesson #1 and vowed to live accordingly? I am totally responsible for my own happiness!
You are not responsible for my happiness; I am not responsible for yours. How simple is that? Simple, yes; maybe not so easy.
My version of happiness doesn’t necessarily look like yours. Ask any extravert/introvert … or 4-year-old/40-year-old.
The big downside of not taking radical responsibility for my own happiness is that my body pays the price (dis-ease), and the people around me pay the price (I leak anger, misery on them). And deep down, when I’m in that place, I feel disgust with myself, cuz I know I know better.
My job – keep current/tuned in to the nuances and evolution of my own happiness, pursue it.
Ari – what’s Life Lesson #2?
BTW – Ari is the Team Leader for the More To Life Weekend in Johannesburg in November. Whoop!